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ReplyDeletePS I just saw an add for Julia & Julia last night. I turned to Rob and said, "I think I'd like to see that"! The groan from his side of the bed leads me to believe I will be watching it alone. (hehe)
ReplyDeleteWill be interesting to see if we finally found a movie we both like! LOL
Ha! Jon watched it but only because his role as my husband is SO much like their husbands were! He has said to me all the same things they said to their wives. I think it's a great movie, and maybe this will FINALLY be the one we both like!
ReplyDelete1 have a question! I have a mother-in-law who is struggle with obesity and has been for about 10 years. She was recently diagnosed with arthritis in the hip and knee and told she must lose weight. She has tried lots of diets before and is now doing one I think is pretty good. However, she finds every excuse, reason, ache, pain, etc to NOT exercise. My husband and I have been sitting down with her and having some very pointed conversations and just have inserted ourselves into the situation saying we love you and want to see you living pain free. So far, it has been going okay. But I am concerned b/c she is already saying I shouldn't exercise b/c of blah, blah, blah. My husband who has struggled with hip arthritis and had hip surgery is trying to use the power of the testimony to walk beside her. How far should we push her? I get so frustrated b/c one minute she says I need to exercise b/c I cannot hold my children who are VERY young and the next minute she is saying I want to babysit. It is becoming close to life or death now b/c she is older and having heart issues, etc. But also now she is starting to involve my children by requesting to babysit in the future. How can we help her help herself without getting caught up in forcing her to do something she is just unwilling to do?
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ReplyDeleteIt sounds to me like you are working harder on your mother in laws weight loss than she is. I'd have to quote Dr. Phil and say, "how's that working out for ya?"
I know it is difficult, VERY difficult to set boundaries with grandparents, they want full access to their grandbabies! So, I may quit trying to get her to lose weight, because that is a losing battle. She HAS to make that decision for herself and you will go mad trying to do it for her. And 2nd, if you feel like her weight issue makes you feel unsafe with her babysitting, then I would probably say something like, "as soon as I feel like you are physically up to babysitting, I would love for you to have the kids!" If she says well what do you mean? You can gently and kindly explain to her that they are a handful, and they require so much energy physically just to keep up with them. And then encourage her to keep up her exercise routine so she can chase after them and live long to see them grow up!
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